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Bedroom is a two-way street

A relationship is a two-way street.

One person gives a little and takes a little, and the other does the same. There are also certain agreements made in a relationship because one person doesn't like a particular chore. For example, the guy might clean the litter box and the woman will vacuum, or one person will kill the spiders and the other will dust the tchotchkes. Or the husband will hunt dinner and the wife will cook it up--hey, that's how the Ingalls family operated.

But this sort of arrangement can get sticky in the bedroom. If one person is tackling a big chore and the other is simply reaping the rewards, there's a problem. That's why I was surprised when a friend of mine, whom I shall call "Bob" to protect his identity and use a name with a double-entendre, said he refuses to perform oral sex on his girlfriend but expects her to pleasure him that way. How is that fair?
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How much 'Sex' can one person take?

I have a love/hate relationship with "Sex and the City." 
I loved the TV show but hated the first movie. So I was a bit concerned about the "SATC2" movie that opened last week; would this film be better or worse than the first?

I had seen most of the episodes of "SATC" when it aired on HBO from 1998 to 2004. Say what you will about SJP's constant puns, Samantha's over-the-top sexcapades and the girls' drag queen-inspired wardrobes, it's a fun way to pass 25 minutes of your day--except when the character of Mr. Big in on screen, and that's where my apprehension begins.

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Hello, I'm giving you the kiss-off

I don't know why some people kiss hello.

How do you usually greet a friend you haven't seen in ages? Probably a hug and maybe a kiss on the cheek, right? If you run into someone whom you see often you will most likely just say "hello" and leave it at that. Or if you are a straight guy whose favorite pastime is playing bags and making a PBR pyramid on your front stoop and yelling obscenities at anyone who walks past, then you probably greet everyone with a "bro!" a fist-bump and a "whatsup" chin nod.
 
Not us gay men--most of us love to kiss hello. Not the friendly peck on the cheek mind you; I am talking about the full-on, puckered lips to lips (no tongue unless you are really friendly). It's very common, it's very accepted and it's starting to get very annoying.
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Jason what's with all the helicopters over East Lakeview for the past 2 hours?

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Hide the giant lube jar! The parents are coming!

Recently my parents came to visit from Pittsburgh. 
My boyfriend and I live in the heart of Boystown and by now my parents are used to what they refer to as "the lively activity" that goes on nearly 24/7. 

When they first visited years ago, I was more worried about my surroundings and made sure everything was "parent friendly." I would reddup the apartment (that's Pittsburghese for "a quick clean") and do a scan to make sure there weren't any nude male screen savers on the computers, a dog-eared copy of the "Gay Kama Sutra" on the bookshelf or a 30-gallon jug of lubricant on the dresser.

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